Someone close to Rashard said I shouldn't have put stipulations on the money I sent to help him out. This so called "stipulation" was that he had to let his children visit their family. That's not doing me any favors. I'm not asking him to wash my car or cut my grass, I'm asking him to do what he is suppose to be doing anyway. Would it be a stipulation if I said he needed to take showers or baths in exchange for the money? No it's not because he is suppose to wash himself anyway. Calling it a stipulation is just a way of excusing his behavior.
He was in a bad situation and needed urgent help. He told me he was homeless and he and his wife had been living in a hotel in southeast Houston. He said he was out of money and would soon be out on the street. He cried telling me how hard it's been for him. I asked him how much did he need. He said $700. I told him I would send it, but he would need to let the kids visit their family for Thanksgiving. Rashard had been making it hard for the family to keep in touch with the kids for years. He agreed to let the kids visit for Thanksgiving and I wired $350 immediately with the understanding I would send the next $350 after he got the kids state IDs so they could fly to visit their grandmother. All he would have to do is see that they make it to the airport or bus station, I'd take care of all the other arrangements. I was trying to make it as easy as could be.
He called a few days later and said he is working on getting those IDs, but he needed the second $350 now and couldn't wait. I said OK and wired the second $350. I wasn't suppose to wire it until after he got the IDs, but I sent it early because he sounded sincere that he was working on it and he would keep his word. I wanted to be helpful to his situation.
A couple of days before they were suppose to leave for their Thanksgiving visit, he called again and said he didn't have any money for food. I wired another $150. I asked him if we were still on track for the Thanksgiving visit and he said yes. People took off work and arrangements had been made to ensure the kids had a good time during their Thanksgiving visit.
One day after he had me send him the $150 so that he could buy food for his family and one day before we were expecting the kids to arrive, he calls me and says "the kids don't want to come visit". What does that matter? You gave your word. You took the money and just had me send you more money yesterday. Do the kids run the house or do you run the house? Make sure those kids visit their family. He refused to send them and said he had nothing else to say to me and hung up the phone.
Just one month earlier he was crying his eyes out to me talking about how bad things were for him, and a month later after he got my money and he's ok again, he's hanging up on me and breaking his promise.
This is how Rashard keeps his word. I guess he doesn't understand that at the end of the day, all a man has on this planet when dealing with another man is his word.
